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Feb 10, 2022Liked by Abha Malpani Naismith

Lovely writing Abha : ) My mum is in her 70's and when a peer of hers described herself as "elderly" I thought that's a word my mum would never use about herself. In her mind she's as sharp and present as she's ever been and because she doesn't think of herself as old she really isn't.

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Feb 9, 2022Liked by Abha Malpani Naismith

Beautifully written Abha! I would not trade my wrinkles and wisdom to be younger. I have earned every stretch mark, every wrinkle, every bit of cellulite that I have. It comes packaged with a much greater acceptance of myself and an ability to value myself in a way that I just did not know how to in my youth. This has made for a happier me, a more stable (professionally and personally) me and a more authentic me.

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Feb 7, 2022Liked by Abha Malpani Naismith

I think mothers have a remarkable ability to model aging for their children. At age 50 & 60 my mother rejoiced because one year it meant she could join the "Gray Panthers" (radical group of older activists), and one year it meant she could join the "Wrinkled radicals" (another radical group of older activists). She showed me that age came with excitement, possibility, and power. Even in her 80s when I visited she would take me to protests with her friends - LOL! Among my friends, I am the least worried about aging. I think it is not a coincidence (-;

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Feb 7, 2022Liked by Abha Malpani Naismith

I enjoyed this and very much relate! For what it's worth, I am loving my 40s 🙂. Compared to my 20s, I have more money, more confidence, more emotional stability, stronger relationships, and a stronger sense of self. If I have to put up with a few wrinkles and sags to get there, it's well worth it!

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